Stop Pouring Into Empty Cups

 

December Reflection: 

This month feels different.
Not because everything suddenly became easier,
but because clarity finally set in.

All year I’ve watched people move forward.
Not because they were better than me,
not because they had more resources or more support,
but because they made one decision that I was too afraid to make:

They stopped pouring into empty cups.

And here I was — stagnant, tired, drained —
still trying to carry people emotionally, spiritually, mentally,
people who had no intention of growing, healing, or moving.
People who were comfortable where they were,
while I was struggling to hold myself together
and hold them together too.

But now… I see it clearly.
I cannot take everyone where God is taking me.
Not because I am better,
but because the capacity God has given me
is not something everyone can contain.

Some people simply cannot walk this journey.
Not because they’re bad,
but because this path was not assigned to them.

And this year made me realize something deeper:
I stagnated because I kept trying to take people with me
who were never meant to go.
I slowed down because I kept watering cups
that were cracked, empty, unchanging.
I drained myself trying to carry people
who never once asked God to prepare them for the journey.

But this month — the 12th month —
something in my spirit shifted.

Twelve symbolizes governance, authority, divine order.
And I finally understand what that means for me:

This is the month where I take authority
over my boundaries,
over my healing,
over my destiny,
over my time,
over my peace.

This is the month where I say:
“God, align me with what is mine.”

Because everything I’ve been praying for
in the past 11 months
is now coming into order.
Everything that felt delayed
is now being rearranged.
Everything that felt broken
is now being rebuilt.

God is making manifest what He whispered to my heart.
Not because of luck.
Not because of people.
Not because of chance.
But because it is my time.

And as I step into what is rightfully mine,
I accept that not everyone can go with me.
Not everyone can understand where I’m heading.
Not everyone can hold the weight of what God placed in my spirit.
Not everyone can walk a journey
they never had the courage to begin.

So today, I choose to:

✔ Stop pouring into empty cups.
✔ Stop dragging people who were never assigned to my path.
✔ Stop shrinking myself to make others comfortable.
✔ Stop apologizing for evolving.
✔ Stop delaying my own growth out of loyalty to stagnation.

Because where God is taking me now
requires focus, faith, and forward motion.

This has been a rough year.
A stretching year.
A breaking year.
A revealing year.

But it is ending with governance.
With authority.
With divine alignment.
With manifestation.

And as I step into this final stretch of 2025,
I declare over myself:

“God is making manifest His glory through me.
And I will receive everything that is rightfully mine.”