Help for the wounded heart - when forgiveness hurts

Life knocks us around physically, emotionally and spiritually. I have a list of heart wounds and so do you because we both wear human skin. I looked at that list of wounds and realized there are just as many spiritual wounds. Do you spend time counting the way that people have hurt you? I have and it is ugly. How about you? Abuse, betrayal, jealousy, anger, gossip, envy, strife, you name it...all of our ugly comes out when withhold forgiveness.  Self absorption has a way of making us miserable and the power of our unforgiveness becomes frightfully obvious to others and yet oblivious to ourselves.  We walk around with wide open wounds and say we are just fine when really, we aren't.  What can we do when a band-aid isn't big enough to heal a wound?

You have carried the burdens long enough dear friend.  He already knows your heartache and has the healing balm ready for you.  He sees the whole thing from the beginning and He sees how it ends.

" Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you at the proper time, casting all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you." 1 Peter 5:6-7 

There is a big difference between going to God and letting pain fester with a smile on your face. Have you told God in real physical words exactly why you are having a hard time forgiving that person?  Hand over your list of wounds and let God deal with it. How? Take some serious time to be quiet (or scream and cry!) before God and lay it all out with spoken or written words.  Every ugly thought. Every ugly detail and every nasty moment. Leave nothing unturned and no words or deeds left unmentioned. Spill because you can’t tackle this thing on your own. 

It has been said that unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. True. My guess is that you're loosing a whole lot more sleep about it than they are. Chances are the person that has hurt you has moved on and you are stuck right where it happened. When you take your hurts before a Holy God-you don't have to bear them alone.  He is your Emmanuel, God With Us, and He is the only one that can help you move forward in victory.

In His Love

She peaks

Heartbroken?

Friend,

I don’t know what your heartbreak is about, but I know it hurts.

My gosh, does it hurt.

It feels like you can’t breathe, or think. It’s consuming. It makes you wonder how anything will ever be ok.

And so you find yourself on the floor, feeling like getting up isn’t going to happen anytime soon.

If I was there, I’d lay down next to you. I’d tell you that this pain is so real, and it’s going to hurt for awhile.

But it’s you, and you have the Spirit of the healer living right inside of you, and so I know that this isn’t how it ends for you. I'd tell you it's okay to be devastated. This feeling won't go away immediately but when it does, you will be so strong and fierce. I know, because I've been on the floor many times before.

I felt like it would never be okay.

It wasn't pretty. It wasnt easy. It wasn't quick. I'm here and I am better.

There are different reasons for our heartbreak and we all heal differently and that's great. As long as we heal.

Friend, your story doesn't end on the floor. It ends when you allow yourself to get up and decide.